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Am I willing to have a relationship with myself?

That’s a question I ask myself often. It may sound silly and I can see you thinking, ‘God help me, for being with me‘ LOL, but jokes apart, seriously, have you ever considered committing to yourself in that way? In a way you commit to your relationships? In a way that you are with your own partners.

I am not commitment-phobic, but I definitely need to  learn to fully commit. I fear:

1. Taking the first step

 2: How to keep the fire burning

Both are are equally tough barriers to break. For the longest time, I found myself running away from taking that first step. I knew that taking the first step meant committing. Commitment means discipline, focus, determination, giving up things you love for a while at least, being more responsible about the choices one makes, and so on. That is truly a tough one. It’s like getting into a relationship with yourself.  And telling yourself, you are committed to you. Then following through with that commitment. It is not easy. I have let myself down so many times, that I feared that commitment.

I eventually took the first step, and stuck with it for a long time. I dropped a few sizes, my confidence came back  and more so, I regained my health. Then I lost the most dear person in my life, my mother. I went back into a hole. It’s like I divorced myself. I decided I was going to self-sabotage to deal through the pain. Slowly, the weight and the dysfunctions returned. The same old patterns re-surfaced. Poor choices began to make their way back in. My divorced self decided to let go of the relationship with me.

Then I re-committed. And every now and again I falter. I give in to temptations. I hurt – I eat. I feel pain – I drink. I feel tired – I eat. I feel upsetI skip exercise and get into my duvet. And that pattern continues.

Yet, taking that first step has its own excitement. It’s new, it’s fun. It’s euphoric. You are getting to know your own body, your patterns, your own inner self better. You wake up each morning and decide that it will be your day.  Until…one day, the desire, the motivation diminishes. The excitement of the new-ness goes. The excuses start creeping back in. Every thing starts being an effort.

That’s the barrier that I need to break is to stay motivated long after the excitement of committing to something new has diminished.  Just like how it can get in a relationship. How does one stay motivated?

By taking the Vows and staying committed.

So, I am making FIVE vows to me:

Vow 1: I shall change my perspective of looking at change.

I am committing to my own self growth, for my good, and having a relationship with myself so I can live a longer, healthier life. That in itself should be enough motivation.

Vow 2: I shall re-tune my thinking

No one is asking me to give up on food and spirits, or whatever keeps me excited. It’s not a punishment, it’s a lifestyle. Make small changes for food choices and add exercise. Be consistent and do it every day.

Vow 3:I shall only be amongst like-minded people

This is the biggest asset that one can build. When people are on a journey together, they won’t ever tell you ‘one last drink’, or ‘have this for me’, or ‘come on, it’s only for a day’. They will support you, understand your ups and downs, and still be with you. That’s why I choose to be around you positive people.

Vow 4: I shall stay away from negativity

I will be amongst those who love me and  are willing to share in my journey. Negativity sucks energy. There are many out there happily waiting to  inject their negativity into me. I am staying away from it. I don’t deserve it and I don’t need it in my life.

Vow 5: I shall learn to love myself unconditionally 

This to me is the most critical vow. When we love ourselves (obviously in a functional way),we know the right choices to make. Food, body, mind, spirit, all aspects. The motivation will come on its own.I vow to love myself unconditionally. I may not be easy to live with, and will have my good days and bad, but hey, if I don’t love myself, who else will?

The barriers will break only by remembering that we can control our mind. That’s where it is all stored. The motivation. Come, let’s continue on this journey, together.

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My story so far:

“A Ticking Time Bomb”.

That was the blunt description given the mounting problem of Type 2 Diabetes within the South Asian Diaspora community in the United Kingdom a few years ago.

According to research, immigrants to the UK from India, Pakistan, Bangladesh and other nations from South Asia are six times more likely than the indigenous white population to develop Type 2 Diabetes.

Whilst current evidence is inconclusive as to why British Asians are more susceptible to the disorder, medical experts have pointed to the twin evils of a diet high in carbohydrates and saturated fatty acids (all those chapattis and rice dishes) as well as alarmingly low levels of physical activity, especially among older South Asian women, as two of the most significant contributory factors to a problem that is certain to put a huge burden on families and the community at large.

Alarmingly, there is widespread ignorance about Type 2 Diabetes within the community, according to medical experts, which threatens the lives of thousands.

Mumbai-born, with ten amazing years in New Zealand, now North London-based marketing and advertising expert , Raga D’silva was among those ignorant masses.

The 45-year-old mother of twins, whose family had a history of Diabetes, was diagnosed with this illness in 2012. The news brought about a radical change in Raga and has inspired her to help others with Diabetes and raise awareness.

Raga is the Asian Ambassador for Diabetes UK.


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Turn Winter Blues to Green

Turn Winter Blues to Green

Most of us know that winter is a dreadful time for those facing the challenges of weight. It’s harder to get out and exercise, and even harder to not succumb to the temptations of hot fries, oily fried food, take-aways and all those indulgences.

My old self used to find much solace in all these ‘excuses’. After all, how could one possibly get out in the bitter winter cold, with wet tracks and icy chilling winds. My new self doesn’t care anymore. I manage to run out in the elements, and find myself making ‘excuses’ to exercise and eat better.

So, when I saw this recipe online, I wanted to immediately share. Thank you Rashmeela Singh Salla, who developed this recipe for a cold winter evening. Looks super great. This would be healthy yet low calorie. Perfect to make it, exactly how she has described it. I am certain for those who cannot do without their meat, may want to try out with chicken/lamb.


Spinach – 1 bunch

Kale – Half bunch
carrot – 1
Garlic – 2-3 cloves (finely chopped)
mushrooms – half box (roughly chopped)
Spring onion – 3
Freshly crushed pepper


1) chop spinach kale and carrot.

2) put to boil in a vessel.. If you have any leftover water from boiling vegetables for any other dish use that else normal water

3) In a separate pan add a little olive oil (can substitute butter for tastier but unhealthier option) And sauté garlic

4) after they have become slightly brown add mushrooms. Sauté till mushrooms are cooked.

5) Meanwhile, check the boiling leaves. Add 2 cubes of chicken stock (can substitute vegetable stock). Both are easily available in any supermarket like Tesco or waitrose.

6) once it’s nicely boiled add some salt

7) simmer for some time. Now using a hand blender, just blend the leaves / carrot in water to get a nice thick consistency

8) simmer for 2 minutes and then add the garlic mushroom that you had previously prepared.

9) mix well. After a few minutes add freshly crushed pepper. Garnish with finely sliced spring onions.

Oh, and remember to enjoy!


Thank you Rashmeela Singh Salla.

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Posted by on January 12, 2015 in Diet, Motivation


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Detox your Soul

Detox your Soul

I have often participated in ‘short term‘ solutions through my life.  If I had too much to eat, I would detox through abstinence from certain food for a period of time, popularly called ‘fasting‘. If I had too much to drink, then I would detox using liver cleansing methods. Read the rest of this entry »


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How to lose weight the smart way – a letter to a friend

How to lose weight the smart way – a letter to a friend

A friend with whom I shared  my food log with ( commented on how little I ate. I also noticed that she had a few issues dealing with her weight loss — I shared my thoughts through an email… it is.                                 

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Posted by on March 13, 2014 in Diabetes, Diet


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My bucket list number 1

My bucket list number 1

So, no time for the gym? Do you have a bucket? Here’s one way of using it!

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Posted by on March 4, 2014 in Diabetes, Diet, Motivation


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The Magic of Weight loss

You have no  idea, how many people I meet, talk to , communicate with, tell me how lucky I am to lose this weight.  I smile and thank them all for their kind words. But seriously, in my head I think “lucky my ass”. If hard work is luck, then yes, I am very lucky.  It almost feels as if people believe that those like me who lose weight, are illusionists.  They eat some magic potions, and behold one day, wake up smaller, just as one day they woke up fat.Unfortunately, luck has nothing to do with weight loss. Just as it had nothing to do with weight gain. Laziness plays a big role in gaining weight (of course there are those who are afflicted by very painful illnesses and just cannot exercise), we start calling it ‘lifestyle’ issues.  Hard work plays a major role in losing it, simply!

It’s pure science though. Nothing to do with magic.I was eating way too much. I discovered when I started logging my food. I would honestly think I wasn’t eating much. My meal portions were really small.  One piece of bread (roti bread), or a small portion of rice, with simple lentils and salad was my regular meal.  Honestly, that was it. Then  how did I gain the weight?What I did not account for was all that I ate in-between my very small portions – the two biscuits I dunked into my coffee each morning, the post breakfast snack at the office, the post lunch snack, the potato chips pre dinner, the couple of whiskeys with tandoori chicken, and then the yummy ice cream, or chocolate that followed my very small dinner.  Oh, and if I felt very happy that night, and if I was distracted some exciting ‘food’ show on television (thank you Masterchef), I would inadvertently get at least 2 slices of bread pan toasted with enough butter for a week.

In my mind, I was eating about 1200 calories a day, which is the recommended calorie intake for women my age.  However, when I did finally log in my food intake on (a free tool to log in food, drink and exercise) I was beyond shocked!!! I was eating for at least 2 women, and some days for three.  No wonder I was the size of a house (a proper 3-bedroom one at that -:))

To lose weight, I realised all I had to do is simply eat for one person. Eat right kind of food. You cannot eat for one person, and eat a horse. You got to eat right.  Decide your meals for next day a day in advance. Plan, plan, plan.  Most of us don’t know how many calories we intake in each meal. Use free tools such as
Divide your meals into
– breakfast
– morning snack
– lunch
– afternoon snack
– evening meal

When I started eating right, some days I struggled with even consuming 1200 calories a day. When I was eating ‘whatever’ came my way – I was eating upto 4000-5000 calories a day.

It’s simple science. None of us really need to get into specifics of that. What we need to simply remember is consuming our recommended calorie intake every day, exercising every day (any form of exercise is fine) and leading a good lifestyle (drinking plenty of water, and getting at least 8 hours of sleep). Staying HAPPY is very critical. I learnt that I am an emotional eater.  I eat when I feel low. Now I substitute that with exercise, reading and simply annoying others 🙂

Bring the magic to your lives – eat well, exercise! Don’t be secret eaters, as I was.

Let’s not pretend that our weight is just coming on its own. Let’s take ownership, so we can change it, so we can get healthier. 

I challenge you to log in your food today on Log in every morsel, every drink, coke, pepsi, sprite, every thing…and then check how many calories you actually take in. Then calculate how many calories you really burn each day. The answers will come. It’s simple science. Not magic.  But losing weight can be magical, as I have found out! 

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Posted by on March 2, 2014 in Diabetes, Diet, Motivation


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So what if you are 40! No more excuses. Get off your ass and move!

So what if you …

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Posted by on February 24, 2014 in Motivation


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Raga Finally Gets Off Her Ass and Takes The First Step


First issue was I had no idea where to start. Doctors basically have no time for you.  They share what they think they should and leave you to deal with it. Also, what do you ask someone about something that you have no idea about! So, you just nod, smile and go home and feel worse, and feel all sorry for yourself.
However, we live in great times – we have access to information. That was my first step.
First, I researched every information I could on diabetes, hypertension and my gall bladder problem. I searched the internet. I found very interesting tips and information on amongst other sites. There is a huge amount of information available.
All the research, led to one key solution to my problem.  LOSE the weight.  

And losing weight was not just an exercise in working-out and diet, I realised it was much more. It meant, I had to:

 – re-tune my thinking
– get my family on my side 
– be more disciplined (if I had to wake up 2 hours earlier than usual so I could add gym to my routine, I had to). Also getting adequate sleep was as important as the work out.
– work on my emotional side – lots. There are days you just don’t good. Those are the days you need to be stronger, and push yourself
– find my spiritual side, to ensure I was happy inside, knew who i was. (this lead me to searching for a  higher purpose which I had always questioned in the past – more on that in later posts)
– change my way of attitude towards food.
– change my attitude towards working out.  Wow, is it hard! In London when the temperatures get low and all you want to do is lay in the duvet that extra hour….
– let go of all inhibitions – when you are at the gym, you are the only ‘focus’ you need to be
– learn to be more happy

Biggest question I worried about: But, where do I start?

I realised, I had to simply give it everything I had –  to make a change!

Don’t believe anyone who says that you should go ahead and eat/drink anything you want as long as you drink/eat in moderation. NOPE. 

It’s a committment. No half measures. You got to give it all that you have got!Life gave me a second chance – I wanted to not mess it up. 

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Posted by on February 20, 2014 in Diabetes, Diet, Motivation


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